It Does Get Better

As I sit here unwinding from work I have been thinking about things that I have went through in my life as well as even now that I am no longer with my ex.  I even read some of my past blog entries and I have to say I have been through a lot of tough situations in my life and have always came out alright.  Am I upset that things got hard at time and I felt like there was no way out?  Earlier on in life I would probably have said yes but now I am glad that I went through them because I learned lessons, how to appreciate things and much more.

Every so often I like to search the web for quotes that I can relate to when I do a blog entry.  Today I found the perfect one because sometimes we need to read quotes to remind us that things are going to be alright.  One such quote is from Demi Lovato, an American actress, singer, and songwriter who made her debut as a child actress in Barney.  

"No matter what you're going through, there's a light at the end of the tunnel and it may seem hard to get to it but you can do it and just keep working towards it and you'll find the positive side of things."

Demi Lovato

 (http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/topics/topic_positive.html#x587MQobJfBrUwpJ.99)

I am noticing that I am still having rough times with my ex and I not being together.  At one point and time, I was hurting so bad that I couldn't see the light at the end of the tunnel.  However, now I see it but it seems to be taking forever to get to.  As I read this quote, I truly can relate to what it says.

As I work on myself and the relationship with myself, this quote gives me hope because working on myself is really hard at times.  Sometimes, I become close to losing focus and wonder if I can do it at all.

However, I bring myself back to being focused and remind myself that I am doing the right thing by staying focused and working on myself.  Last week, I even started thinking about trust.  I thought about it so much that when I went to my therapist appointment after last weeks blog entry, I discussed it with her.  She brought up an interesting observation.  She said that it didn't sound like I have a problem with trust, but I have issues recognizing when the trust has been violated.

Again this quote gives me hope because it reminds me that this, like all the other times I could not seem to see the light at the end of the tunnel, I can get to it once more.  I am moving towards that "light at the end of the tunnel".  I have faith that I will reach it if I just keep doing what I am doing and that is focusing on myself on all levels.

This is a good reminder for everyone I feel.  We all have those moments.  I especially did before my transition, when I was getting off drugs, when I was homeless, when I didn't have an income, and even with my relationship ending.  I have seen articles of transgender women who could not see the light at the end of the tunnel and they took their life.  I only wish they read this quote and reached out to those of us that are transgender.

So my challenge for the week my dear readers is to think about this quote and what it means to you. Are you at your darkest hour where it seems as if no matter how hard you try you can not get to the light that you see?  I believe that you can reach out if you need to.  I know I have.  I have a couple of friends that are probably tired of hearing my struggle.  We do get through the darkest hour, we do get to the light at the end of the tunnel, and it does get better.

Until next time.  Stay Safe and Be Blessed